"In order to build ourselves up, we must will willing to literally tear parts of ourselves to pieces."
Yes yes yes. And, we need to be able to look without flinching, to be able to see the parts of ourselves that we want to get rid of, in order to be able to tear them up and replace them with something new.
Tanti auguri from Italy. I love my 40s. I'm 47 now and do not give a shit anymore. I work less and live better, without caring what people think. It's great. I wish you a peaceful day!
This is why I think we need to be more intentional about cultivating intergenerational friendships. I wish I knew in my 20s how freeing my 40s would feel. And because I'm lucky to have friends in their 70s and 80s - I know from them it gets even better!
Happy happy birthday lovely! I loved reading about the tomatoes, thank you for sharing that wisdom from nature. I adore that quote too... and I don’t want to be safe I want to be whole... still working on gently building my nervous system up to hold that sentiment fully... but the intention is truly there. Xxx
Thanks Lauren. I'm pretty sure anything I know in my bones I learned from the garden. Plants are so much wiser than I am. Heh.
Its an interesting thing you touch on about your nervous system being able to hold that fully. I think there's a piece in there somewhere. Maybe we could talk about it sometime for a piece or a podcast.
I'm nearly 14 years on from a major burnout / clinical depression. Looking back it's been interesting to see that the times I have had major leaps in my healing were the ones where I held both at the same time. Where I honoured the truth that I was at the edge of my capacity and also carefully probed that edge in a mindful, intentional way. Pushing forward, then resting, nudging and resting.
This past summer in particular was so far outside of my comfort zone - I *had* to swim and sauna every darn day. I had to intentionally reset my system every day in order to keep moving forward.
Let me know if you'd like to chat for a collab on the topic sometime.
I think that when it comes to raising kids, it is indeed very important to not over-protect and shield them too much from the outside world. Essentially, with parental guidance, they need to be exposed to the public in general and to be involved in interactions with other people. This is crucial in developing their social skills and street smarts.
I agree as well with your point on developing robust immune systems. In that sense, for people to live in environments that aren't too clean and sterilized, in terms of natural dirt and germs. Such exposure is indeed important in the development of a more resilient immune system.
Thanks Raveen. We have two kids and our guiding principle has been to prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child and to teach them to do dangerous things safely. We also involved them in the daily running of our family business from a very young age, as well as encouraging them to start their own businesses when they turned 8.
The result is they have grown into two young adults who are brave, capable, resilient and unafraid to try new things, talk to strangers, push their boundaries and make mistakes. We've done a lot of things 'wrong' as parents but I'm so grateful we got that part 'right' for our kids.
Happy birthday Stacey! Welcome to the Anti-Fragile Club. Enjoy your day.
Thanks - it's a daily choice, isn't it? Working on it!
Well Stacey, I suppose it’s a choice until you decide to incorporate the notion into the whole of your being, then it’s not. It’s just you.
So thankful for these words this morning...perfect timing for me.
Glad they found you, Rob.
"In order to build ourselves up, we must will willing to literally tear parts of ourselves to pieces."
Yes yes yes. And, we need to be able to look without flinching, to be able to see the parts of ourselves that we want to get rid of, in order to be able to tear them up and replace them with something new.
Tanti auguri from Italy. I love my 40s. I'm 47 now and do not give a shit anymore. I work less and live better, without caring what people think. It's great. I wish you a peaceful day!
This is why I think we need to be more intentional about cultivating intergenerational friendships. I wish I knew in my 20s how freeing my 40s would feel. And because I'm lucky to have friends in their 70s and 80s - I know from them it gets even better!
"Saying no to the cult of safety" is going to be the guiding light of my week – thank you so much for this! Happy belated birthday :)
Happy happy birthday lovely! I loved reading about the tomatoes, thank you for sharing that wisdom from nature. I adore that quote too... and I don’t want to be safe I want to be whole... still working on gently building my nervous system up to hold that sentiment fully... but the intention is truly there. Xxx
Thanks Lauren. I'm pretty sure anything I know in my bones I learned from the garden. Plants are so much wiser than I am. Heh.
Its an interesting thing you touch on about your nervous system being able to hold that fully. I think there's a piece in there somewhere. Maybe we could talk about it sometime for a piece or a podcast.
I'm nearly 14 years on from a major burnout / clinical depression. Looking back it's been interesting to see that the times I have had major leaps in my healing were the ones where I held both at the same time. Where I honoured the truth that I was at the edge of my capacity and also carefully probed that edge in a mindful, intentional way. Pushing forward, then resting, nudging and resting.
This past summer in particular was so far outside of my comfort zone - I *had* to swim and sauna every darn day. I had to intentionally reset my system every day in order to keep moving forward.
Let me know if you'd like to chat for a collab on the topic sometime.
xo
I would LOVE to chat all of this through. So much YES! Xx
Why don't you drop me a note with the best email to reach you and we will book a time to chat. hello {at} slowfolk {dot} co (that's co, not com) xo
Done! X
Beautiful, what a metaphor of tomato plants. Thank you! And happy birthday 😊 here’s to another year!
Wisely said.
I think that when it comes to raising kids, it is indeed very important to not over-protect and shield them too much from the outside world. Essentially, with parental guidance, they need to be exposed to the public in general and to be involved in interactions with other people. This is crucial in developing their social skills and street smarts.
I agree as well with your point on developing robust immune systems. In that sense, for people to live in environments that aren't too clean and sterilized, in terms of natural dirt and germs. Such exposure is indeed important in the development of a more resilient immune system.
Thanks Raveen. We have two kids and our guiding principle has been to prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child and to teach them to do dangerous things safely. We also involved them in the daily running of our family business from a very young age, as well as encouraging them to start their own businesses when they turned 8.
The result is they have grown into two young adults who are brave, capable, resilient and unafraid to try new things, talk to strangers, push their boundaries and make mistakes. We've done a lot of things 'wrong' as parents but I'm so grateful we got that part 'right' for our kids.
You're welcome. Wow, that really is long-term planning and development for your children. That's impressive.